"I try to understand that although my husband does miss me, he may not want to spend his whole deployment on the computer with me. He needs his ways of dealing and to get his mind off of the deployment.If the chow hall is having a themed dinner he may spend more time there with co-workers and friends than on the computer with me.

Communication Tip Try to avoid comparing how often you speak with your service member with how often somebody else says they are speaking with their service member.

Focus on what works for you and your service member and don't worry about how other couples are communicating.

Schedules Can be Hard to Maintain If you don't hear from your service member at a pre-determined time, don't worry and don't take it personally.

Hopefully, you and your service member had a discussion during pre-deployment about how often you'll communicate while he's gone.

If you didn't do this before he left, it's not too late to try to establish these expectations now.

However, even with a tentative calling or emailing schedule, both you and your service member may struggle to maintain the routine.As much as service members would like to establish a schedule for reaching their loved ones, their missions in a combat zone or operational activities may interfere.Your service member is probably as anxious to communicate with you as you are with him.Once deployed and actively engaged in his unit's missions, there's little that your service member can do to control when he'll be able to call.This unpredictability can be a source of frustration for some loved ones, particularly since there's not a phone number at which they can reach their service member.This is where Internet access is truly helpful for most service members.